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Week 3:
Temperament No one impacts who your child is becoming more than you do. Kathleen Edelman Know Your Temperament:
ADDITIONAL TEMPERAMENT RESOURCE • Personality Plus for Parents by Florence Littauer
ADDITIONAL DISCIPLINE RESOURCES • Parenting by The Book: Biblical Wisdom for Raising Your Child by John Rosemond • Boundaries with Kids by Henry Cloud and John Townsend • Loving Your Child Too Much by Tim Clinton and Gary Sibcy • Parenting Your Powerful Child: Bringing an End to the Everyday Battles by Dr. Kevin Leman
APPLICATION EXERCISE
THE TEMPERAMENT TEST DISCOVER THE TEMPERAMENTS OF YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS Over the next week, please take a few moments to complete the assessment below as a first step toward discovering the temperaments of your family members. Use the chart on the following page to write the temperament of each person.
STEP 1: Circle the word in each row that best describes a family member. Column A
Column B
Column C
Column D
1
TAKES CHANCES
LIKES TO LEAD
LOYAL
HIGH IDEALS
2
RATIONAL
FUN-LOVING
DARING
BALANCED
3
NON-DEMANDING
DEEP/THOUGHTFUL
IMAGINATIVE
SINGLE-MINDED
4
PRODUCTIVE
UNDERSTANDING
DETAILED
LIKES VARIETY
5
UNFLUSTERED
RESERVED
MOTIVATOR
AUTHORITATIVE
6
LOGICAL
ENJOYS NEW THINGS
DECISION MAKER
MEDIATOR
7
ENERGETIC
OPINIONATED
AVOIDS CONFLICT
PREDICTABLE
8
CONSCIENTIOUS
EXPRESSIVE
LEADER
NURTURING
9
PATIENT
PRACTICAL
FORGIVING
ADVENTUROUS
10
GOAL-DRIVEN
PATIENT
FAITHFUL
LOVES PEOPLE
11
DISLIKES CHANGE
TIDY
PROMOTER
COMPETITIVE
12
PERSISTENT
PLAYFUL
INDEPENDENT
TOLERANT
13
TALKATIVE
ENJOYS CHALLENGES
DEEP RELATIONSHIPS
SENSITIVE
14
CREATIVE
POSITIVE
BRAVE
GOOD LISTENER
15
ACCEPTING
EVALUATES
ENTHUSIASTIC
IMPULSIVE
16
DOER
EASYGOING
LIKES ORDER
OPEN/FRIENDLY
17
STEADY
CAUTIOUS
ENERGETIC
ACHIEVER
18
PERFECTIONIST
ANIMATED
VISIONARY
WILLING
This test is based on Personality Patch Training by Teresa Gilbert: pathwaystoexcellence.net. All rights reserved.
STEP 2: Count the number of words you circled for each color, and record it below. TOTALS: Red __________ Yellow __________ Green __________ Blue __________
FAMILY TEMPERAMENT CHART Dad
Mom
Temperament Color
Temperament Color
(Name of Child)
(Name of Child)
(Name of Child)
Temperament Color
Temperament Color
Temperament Color
(Name of Child)
(Name of Child)
Temperament Color
Temperament Color
TEMPERAMENT PROFILES Sanguine
Choleric
PLAYFUL YELLOW
POWERFUL RED
FUN-LOVING OUTGOING OPTIMISTIC LIFE OF THE PARTY
BORN LEADER “GET THINGS DONE” PERSON VISIONARY DECISION MAKER
“I’m the quintessential people person. I enjoy being the center of attention and am energized by being with people. I’m bold and loud in almost everything I do.”
“I’m a strong leader. I am very taskoriented and often find myself doing multiple tasks at one time. If I am not in charge, I want to be.”
Phlegmatic
Melancholy
PEACEFUL GREEN
PROPER BLUE
RELAXED LIKEABLE PEACEABLE LOW-STRESSED
“I’m laid back and go with the flow most of the time. I can be different things to different people and respond as needed in different situations.”
ORGANIZED DETAIL-ORIENTED DEEP THINKER “I tend to be a quiet person, and I am energized by time alone. I like things functional and efficient, and I appreciate things like agendas, detailed instructions, and strong follow-through.”
The temperament information on pages 22-26 is based on the information found in the book, Personality Plus, by Florence Littauer. Adaptations have been made by Kathleen Edelman to keep current with new research concerning temperament behaviors.
TEMPERAMENT STRENGTHS & WEAKNESSES Sanguine
Choleric
STRENGTHS
STRENGTHS
PEOPLE PERSON HUMOR CREATIVE AND COLORFUL GREAT STORYTELLER
WEAKNESSES
DECISIVE WORKS WELL UNDER PRESSURE PRODUCTION-ORIENTED GREAT LEADER
WEAKNESSES
DECIDES BY FEELING TALKS TOO MUCH DISTRACTED EASILY INTERRUPTS
TOO OPINIONATED WORKAHOLIC OVERLY INTENSE INSENSITIVE
Phlegmatic
Melancholy
STRENGTHS
ADAPTABLE COMPETENT AND STEADY GOOD LISTENER KIND
WEAKNESSES
TOO QUIET PROCRASTINATOR STUBBORN AVOIDS CONFLICT
STRENGTHS
ATTENTION TO DETAIL DEEP AND THOUGHTFUL GREAT AT PROCESSES AND SYSTEMS PERSISTENT AND THOROUGH
WEAKNESSES
LACKS SPONTANEITY STRUGGLES UNDER PRESSURE HARD TO PLEASE REMEMBERS THE NEGATIVES
BASIC DESIRE: HAVE FUN EMOTIONAL NEEDS: Attention Affection Approval Acceptance
CONTROLS BY: CHARM
LEAD
Popular Sanguine
Extroverted • Optimistic • Outspoken
THE TEMPERAMENTS
PLAY
Peace and Quiet Feeling of Worth Lack of Stress Respect
CONTROLS BY: PROCRASTINATION
Introverted • Pessimistic • Soft-Spoken
EMOTIONAL NEEDS:
EMOTIONAL NEEDS: Loyalty Sense of Control Appreciation Credit for Work
CONTROLS BY: ANGER
Decisive • Organized • Goal Oriented
ANALYZE
BASIC DESIRE: HAVE PEACE
BASIC DESIRE: HAVE CONTROL
WORK
Witty • Easygoing • Not Goal Oriented
Peaceful Phlegmatic
Powerful Choleric
Perfect melancholy BASIC DESIRE: HAVE PERFECTION EMOTIONAL NEEDS: Sensitivity Support Space Silence
CONTROLS BY: MOODS
DISCOVERING YOUR CHILD’S TEMPERAMENT Sanguine
Choleric
Kids Playful Yellow
Kids powerful Red
ENJOYS LIFE ACCEPTING SOCIAL LOVES HUGS INQUISITIVE