RESILIENCE, EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE & RECOVERY SKILL Sherri Layton, MBA, LCDC, CCS NAADAC Mid South RVP Outpatient Services Administrator La Hacienda Treatment Center
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Resiliency Background & research What it is/what it looks like Where it comes from Emotional Intelligence Background & research What it is/what it looks like Blending Resilience & EI into Recovery Skill Treatment Plan/Therapeutic Process Applications
FUTURE OF ADDICTION TREATMENT
Recovery rather than addiction Recovery management vs disease management Strengths based vs weakness/obstacles/problems Brain chemistry of recovery vs brain chemistry of addiction Prevention – characteristics we can build on Whole person, recovery environment
RESILIENCE An occurrence of rebounding or springing back Increased probability of (school &) life success despite adversities caused by (early) characteristics, conditions, & experiences
RESILIENT PERSON Socially competent Problem solving skills Sense of autonomy (personal independence and the capacity to
make moral decisions and act on them)
Hope for the future
“ENVIRONMENTAL PROTECTIVE FACTORS”
Social groups with 3 primary elements High
expectations Caring & support Opportunities for participation
Caring adult or peer People can “turn around”
Behavior incongruent with values Lack of insight about own abilities Uncomfortable with strengths & weaknesses Sets self up for failure Difficulty identifying feelings/needs Inappropriate expression of feelings Impulsive Unrealistic expectations of self/others React rather than respond to people/situations Lacks goals/Lost internal desire to achieve Doesn’t recognize impact of feelings on thoughts Unable to ask for help Their mood is your mood
Untrustworthy Doesn’t handle crises well Uncomfortable with change/ambiguity Undependable Discounts self & accomplishments Pessimistic Lacks skills to overcome frustration & depression Fails to take responsibility Doesn’t consider feelings of others Unable to tolerate others expressing their feelings Doesn’t honor boundaries Ineffective in relationships Emotionally draining to others
IN SUMMARY… Overrun by intense emotions “Don’t do feelings” Unable to accurately identify emotions Make difficult situations worse Impulsive Life skills deficits Ineffective in relationships
HOW’S MY EI?
WHAT IS EI REALLY?
Connecting the rational and emotional centers of the brain Thinking about feeling, doing something constructive with feelings
“… the finding that the brain and nervous system generate new skills as learning or repeated experiences dictate has put the theme of plasticity at the front and center of neuroscience.” - Goleman
TWO MODELS Bradberry & Greaves Goleman Personal Self Awareness Competence: Self Regulation Self Awareness Motivation Self Management
Social Competence: Social Awareness Relationship Management
Empathy Social Skill
PERSONAL COMPETENCE
(SELF AWARENESS, SELF REGULATION, MOTIVATION)
It’s All About Me! Self Awareness – understanding emotions; realistic ideas about self
Self Management – manage emotions, behavior & tendencies
SOCIAL COMPETENCE (EMPATHY, SOCIAL SKILL)
It’s Really About Me And Others! Social Awareness – understanding others, sensitive to others’ needs
Relationship Management – product of the other skills
PUTTING RESILIENCE & EI TOGETHER Resilience Social competency Problem solving skill Connections/engagement Caring and support Sense of autonomy High expectations
Emotional Intelligence Social competency Self regulation Relationship management Empathy Self awareness
WHAT WE DEVELOP/ENCOURAGE IN SOBRIETY
Social competence/social skill Problem solving skill/decision making Sense of autonomy (independence/values driven) Hope for the future/high expectations Self awareness/realistic self assessment Self regulation Motivation Empathy/sensitive to others Connectedness/caring & support Competent with feelings Thinking things through
FOSTERING RESILIENCY & EI Practice, practice, practice – takes motivation (Re)learning social skills in recovery Recovery culture
RECOVERY CULTURE
90 in 90 Principle of personal responsibility Sense of purpose & hope for the future Others who have overcome (Re)join/(re)build relationships Reach out/service work Rituals & celebrations Socializing without drugs
PROMISES
Freedom and happiness Not regret the past Serenity and peace Our experiences benefit others Uselessness and self-pity disappear Interested in helping others Self-seeking slips away Attitude and outlook will change Fear will leave us Intuitively know how to handle situations Recognize God acting in our lives
REMEMBER THE EPF? High expectations Caring & support Opportunities for meaningful participation
OUTCOMES OF RECOVERY CULTURE
Begin to work from strengths Self awareness Optimism Gratitude Quality of life improvements Contributors, productive Help others Decrease self-centeredness Interpersonal skills Responsibility/fundamental work habits Have fun!
THERAPEUTIC INTERVENTIONS Talk about resilience Trust the process Make the connections to treatment/recovery environment Create support system
EPF address basic developmental needs for safety Love
& belonging Respect Autonomy & personal power Meaning Challenge Mastery
“Greater capacity to bounce back from adverse events or circumstances” “Enhanced capacity to achieve & sustain recovery”
RELAPSE PREVENTION RECOVERY MAINTENANCE
COMPETENCE CONNECTION CONTRIBUTION
RESOURCES
“What Resiliency Research Teaches Us”, Bruce Campbell, LCSW, CCS Addiction Professional, Mar/Apr 2010 The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book, Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves, Simon & Schuster, 2005 “What Makes a Leader?”, Daniel Goleman, Harvard Business Review, Nov/Dec 1998.
QUESTIONS? COMMENTS?
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